‘Throw a party,’

He says.
‘Call your girls
Have fun!’
‘Or read the books
From the shelf
They’ve been waiting –
the gone girls, the thief, that elf?’

‘And write a lot
while I’m away.
The distance is temporary
Don’t let it get to you, okay?’

Oh It’s just about a month, I shrug.
I’ll be fine, I’m not that lame.
I’ll be super busy anyway, I smile & say –
And hope it hides the pain. 

 I’m an Army wife, short term distances should not bother me anymore.

But they do.
They still bloody do.
And excuse me, a month and a half isn’t short term! It’s 45 days of breaking a favorite coffee-together routine, 45 days of no pointless-long-drives, 45 days of watching a common-favorite show alone and not having anyone to discuss it with (phone conversations don’t count), and 45 days of a dull yet constant ache – something I will never get used to.

As an Army Wife, I admit that you learn to function alone. You party, you work and you live.

But loneliness? There’s no cure for it.

Post Author: Aditi Mathur Kumar

Author of 2 books. TEDx Speaker. Travel Writer. Blogger. Addicted to Travel & Books. Digital Media Strategist. Social Media Girl. Army Wife. Mom. Curious. Crazy.

12 thoughts on “Loneliness


    (February 3, 2015 - 2:17 pm)

    Like I always ask 'How do you manage this distance?'
    Beautifully written. Only strong women can be an Army wive.


    (February 3, 2015 - 2:18 pm)

    Like I always ask 'How do you manage this distance?'
    Beautifully written. Only strong women can be an Army wive.

    Inderpreet Kaur Uppal

    (February 3, 2015 - 2:33 pm)

    Lovely and heart felt…. Just dawn right!


    (February 3, 2015 - 4:06 pm)

    Hi Aditi. Came across your blog today and this is the first post that I read. Very beautifully written.

    Ritu Sahani

    (February 4, 2015 - 5:34 am)

    I can't tell you how true this poem is. Husband has been away for almost 32 days now and I am tired of hearing army wives are strong and they don't get low for such stuff. Hugs to you aditi. Keep writing. Sharing it on my page. Godspeed!

    Sancheta Madkar

    (February 4, 2015 - 1:34 pm)

    🙁 distance sucks. big time.

    beautifully written.

    Akanksha Dureja

    (February 6, 2015 - 9:43 am)

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    Akanksha Dureja

    (February 6, 2015 - 9:43 am)

    Loved the poetry! Keep calm and enjoy your books, this too shall pass. Besides, Don't we all say that distance makes the heart grow fonder? 🙂

    Bhargav Bhatt

    (February 7, 2015 - 7:32 am)

    waves with different perceptions.. awesome, really…


    (February 7, 2015 - 8:13 am)

    Aww , nicely written…sharing it too..on my page..

    Tannu Bhatia

    (May 13, 2015 - 6:56 pm)

    don't know much about armylife …but after reading ur blog i too want to read ur book asap really a gud one….i wish i would experience the same if god give me the chance …..u change my mind towards army life


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