Chances, Chances.

Chances, chances
Chances lost are hope’s torn up pages
Maybe this time

Chances are we’ll be the combination
Chances come and carry me
Chances are waiting to be taken, and I can see

Chances are the fascinations
Chances won’t escape from me
Chances are only what we make them and all I need

I’ve been humming the song under my breath ever since I read Blogadda’s and MaxLife Insurance’s #SecondChance campaign. What would you do if you had a second chance, they asked and I was hooked. 

Blog about the three things that you have been putting off for the future and would do right now if given a chance, they urged. And oh boy, I was completely inspired because missed chances is right on top of the Regret List
of most of us, right next to Lost Love, or Drunk Dancing on the Delhi
Metro, rush hours. Um, the last part is hypothetical, of course! *cough

So darling readers, I’m using it as a writing prompt more than anything else, because it made me think. Like, really-REALLY think about the top 3 things that I dream about doing, but have been putting off for one reason or another. 

No time – that’s the default reason for everyone (and me) to put off things from our bucket list. Poor financial situation, that’s kind of a constant worry too, especially if your bucket list includes something like around the world in 80 days or something.  Hey, no judging! A wish is a wish is a wish, right? The sky’s the limit when it comes to wishing, and no dream is too big.

That’s what I believe – no dream is too big.

And believe me, there are about 4.5 million thing I want to do if I had the time or the resources (read: if I was rolling in money) and I am still adding things to this list on a one-per-week basis. There is so much I want to do, if given a chance. There is so much I would have done if I had a second chance. And it’s not just me, it’s everybody! I mean, how many times have we wished for a second chance? How many times have we wondered this:

The answer is, of course we can! We can start over and do it right, if we grab the second chance life gives us. This second chance can be anything, from a realization (like this is for me!) to a helping hand, and we might have missed or messed it up the first time, but we have got to brave-up for the second time around, my friends!

Because in the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.

So here are the top 3 things I’d do right now if give a chance:

  1. Take a year long vacation and see the world. Clichéd, I know. Travel is on almost everyone’s list, and mine too. Not even ashamed of being so predictable because hey, when I come back from my world tour and flaunt my Citizen-of-The-World vibe in your face, you’ll be hoping it was you. Seriously. Anyway, so I want to be able to take an entire year off for travel, with no worries about the finances and having to compromise on the quality of my travel. No, I’m not saying I’ll stay at the Ritz-Carltons of the world, no sir! I mean, I’d love to, but I’m flexible that way. I will be perfectly happy with rented apartments with their own kitchens where I could cook for my daughter – because that’s extremely critical. She’s a picky eater.  And I would like to see all the places on my bucket list – Spain, Greece, Australia, Sri Lanka, Abu Dhabi, NYC, Brazil, Paris, Disney World Florida, Malaysia… The list could go on for a while so, yeah, I’ll stop. You get the point.  And I want to be a traveler, not a tourist. I want to blend in, experience the life and take back memories from all corners of the world. Too big a dream? I think not. Fingers crossed.
  2. Give my parents a cute house in Rishikesh. They always talk about escaping the extremes of summer and winter, and going somewhere that’s cooler than Rajasthan in summer, which is where they live, and less colder in winters as well. And Rishikesh fit the bill because a.) it has just the right balance of winters and summers and b.) my dad loves Rishikesh. He’s only been there once, when I was a kid, and I’ve heard him say things like ‘Oh, I’ll take a long vacation in Rishikesh some day…take long walks by the river Ganga…eat at the local dhabas (local food joints)…mingle with the crowds and soak in the calm of the place.’ I want to give him all that, and more – A house in the city he seems to love so much. (though he is in for a little shock about the ‘calm’ claim. Rishikesh is almost as buzzing with crowds as is Haridwar!) And this house I’m talking about, doesn’t have to be a lavish bungalow or something, nah! It will be a cosy little house that my mom will turn into a home in a week and a half, and it will have comfortable interiors and a good view of the mighty Ganga. The two of them can spend their summers and winters in this house. And I hope I’d get to stay with them from time to time, and go on those promising long walks with dad, along Ganga. Oh, bliss!
  3. Help the Veer Nari program of the Indian Army. A Veer Nari is a woman who has lost her son or husband for the safety for the country. Indian Army history is replete with examples of brave mothers and wives
    who have endured the selfless sacrifices of their sons and husbands, in
    various ops of war undertaken to protect the country. These women,
    hailing from varied backgrounds, cultures, dialects are in themselves
    apostles of immense courage and bravery. I am an Army Wife and the Veer Nari cause is close to my heart in way that words will never fully explain. Being a wife or a mother to someone who’s Job Description is pretty much the most dangerous no-guarantees combat situation, is not an easy task. The fear of What-If is always lurking in the deep corners of the mind. Not an easy position to be in, I tell ya! And Veer Naris are the brave, courageous women who have endured this unmatched pain and loss, and are still going strong, supporting the family and bringing up the kids – most of who also want to grow up and join the forces! My heart applauds these brave women, I salute each of these ladies who have carried the burden of wars in their lifetimes, and if I could do something for them, contribute even a little for their benefit and empowerment, I’d die a happy girl. Financial aid, emotional help and social welfare – I want to associate myself with all these aspects. The India Army runs the very successful Veer Naris Welfare Organization for the same cause, and I have always wanted to be an active member of the organization.

That’s my top three. Writing this post has also done something to me – by the end of it I’m thinking why stop at 3? Why not write the other things down too? Oh relax, I’m not writing them here for you to read. You’re welcome! I’ll  make my list on my phone and I’ll start ticking things off. Yes, I’m gonna stop waiting for the right time, because: 


And I don’t want to wait that long, I’m starting on my list NOW! 
(First few things I’m going to do: Trek the Himalayas even if the feet want to give up, learn to Salsa by persuading and/or blackmailing the husband, and eating an entire 18 inch chocolate cheese cake in one go. What? Don’t tell me you have zero weird things on your list!)

What about you? What are you going to do about your list? I say you think about it, write it down on a blog, your diary, a piece of paper or on a sticky note, and just do it. Take that second chance!

This post is a part of the #SecondChance activity at BlogAdda in association with MaxLife Insurance

Post Author: Aditi Mathur Kumar

Author of 2 books. TEDx Speaker. Travel Writer. Blogger. Addicted to Travel & Books. Digital Media Strategist. Social Media Girl. Army Wife. Mom. Curious. Crazy.

4 thoughts on “Chances, Chances.

    Pratishtha Khan

    (February 1, 2015 - 12:24 pm)

    Fabulous post. It's great to stop planning and start doing. Hope you are able to strike off every point in your list. It's a great list, too!

    Rohit Dassani

    (February 2, 2015 - 12:08 pm)

    You are a writer,,,, wow, wow …. will read your book soon….!! Thanks for the inspiration…. lets see where it goes…..

    Ritu Sahani

    (February 3, 2015 - 8:03 am)

    In love with this post, very easy flow. And yes, second chances are blessing.


    (February 3, 2015 - 4:23 pm)

    buying yur book soon and will get abck to yu after reading!

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