To be or not to be….is not the question anymore

There are more important, much more confusing, oh-so-demanding and course-of-life-changing questions one needs to answer these days. Well, not ‘these days’ literally but days when a mid twenties, Career oriented, super-ambitious, single, confused woman has to deal with overwhelming arranged marriage scenes with her folks, with a sooooooooper bitch at work and at a generally unclear point in life. Ugh. This is so not me. But it is true. Days are over when I would pretend this was happening to someone else and that I will just get up and go back to my own happy and content life whenever I want to. Not gonna happen. Reality has finally sunk in. And it is so so so not fair. First there is the arranged marriage thing. Very recently, after numerous sad little meetings with prospective grooms and families, my childhood thought of ‘arranged marriage is so much better’ died and ‘wish I was smart enough to get a life AND a guy’ thought took over. But who else is to be blamed, but the smart ass – myself? I was the miss-know-it-all who laughed on you in school when you had your 1st boyfriend. I was the jerk who ridiculed you in college when you lost sleep over some guy and/or relationship. I was the bitch who lectured you at work about how important a career is over some stupid guy and how shortsighted you are being when you gave more importance to looowe life over a career. Laugh on me now – all of you. Because I declare here, that though being single is still the best for me, there is a time in your life when you have to have to have to get married, this way or the other. ‘This way’ being the love marriage way, which I so much prefer now to the ‘that way’ of arranged marriage. I feel like the last dinosaur man, seriously. Aaargggh!

Work is another thing. I’ve been lucky enough to have worked with the best people ever till now. TILL NOW. Not anymore. I don’t even want to start this subject because I’m exceptionally pissed with the bitch. The fat bitch. The ugly fat bitch. The ugliest fattest bitch of the century. You get the point.
I am so disoriented I want to change my city. My relationship status and financial status seems to be going no where so I thought I’ll evolve my career. ha! And the bitch too, is a tiny reason. Really, I might just kill her one day and land up in the prison with no career. I’d want to pass that situation. Plus maybe a new city will give me some direction. Or at least will take off the pressure temporarily. I’m hoping it would. Some might think of this as running away, but who cares? I can do with some running anyway to fit into the Guess top I got for my birthday. hehe
Okay end.
I’ll keep you pissed. Oh, posted.

Post Author: Aditi Mathur Kumar

Author of 2 books. TEDx Speaker. Travel Writer. Blogger. Addicted to Travel & Books. Digital Media Strategist. Social Media Girl. Army Wife. Mom. Curious. Crazy.

36 thoughts on “To be or not to be….is not the question anymore


    (February 19, 2009 - 6:09 pm)

    i agree.. life can be so stressful at times… but i suppose it is all the part of the growing up experience.


    (February 20, 2009 - 1:10 am)

    Stress…not good….

    single life – more fun than u expect really – just live it up 🙂


    (February 20, 2009 - 4:33 am)

    hey, tough time dont last… dont give in. marriage proposals, work pressure – tough times, but hey, it is times like this make a tough person…


    (February 20, 2009 - 4:45 am)

    bhagvaan tera bhala kare.

    Adi Crazy

    (February 20, 2009 - 6:13 am)

    Raaji: Yessss…the growing up expeience. I wish I’d grow up already hehe

    Adi Crazy

    (February 20, 2009 - 6:14 am)

    Silvara: Too much stress. Uff.
    SIngle life is goooood, really..but this phase is a bit tough

    Adi Crazy

    (February 20, 2009 - 6:15 am)

    –Xh–: Yeah…I’m hoping they dont last. 🙂

    Adi Crazy

    (February 20, 2009 - 6:15 am)

    Spectator: thankuuuuu 😛


    (February 20, 2009 - 6:16 am)

    Sirf tera kyo! bhagvaan sab ka bhala kare. shuruaat mujh se kare.

    Adi Crazy

    (February 20, 2009 - 6:17 am)

    Spectator: Zaroor. But start will be me. I need it more. 🙂


    (February 20, 2009 - 6:27 am)

    🙂 Wanted to start wid a smile dear.
    Anyways,I know how it feels…I am still holding on to my words that ” It’s not time yet, dont start looking for guys”

    But deep inside, I know that no one is listening to that and silently, a conspiracy is mushrooming. 🙁

    I do get hints of this conspiracy but I prefer to believe that it is not true(Just to make myself comfortable)

    But sooner or later, I know I would have to surrender and I dread that day:-(

    Good Luck to you!

    Adi Crazy

    (February 20, 2009 - 7:01 am)

    Akanksha: 🙂 Thanks sweeti..
    I guess things will be clearer soon.


    (February 20, 2009 - 9:20 am)

    Aww….hugssssss sweeti!


    (February 20, 2009 - 10:15 am)

    Hang in there…


    (February 20, 2009 - 2:38 pm)

    Take a breath, slow down, take a step back and relax. Your mind/vision will become clearer.

    Give Marlboro Lights a try (it worked for me, an year bk) and still if peace eludes you, try pranayama, it definitely does work.


    (February 20, 2009 - 2:43 pm)

    Marlboro Lights sucks. wills navy cut, satisfaction guaranteed !


    (February 20, 2009 - 3:47 pm)

    i know somebody who really needs to read this post.. God I am this strong propounder of love marriage only to be gagged by my friends…


    (February 20, 2009 - 5:10 pm)

    Sigh… life keeps getting worse… treat matrimonial meetings as official dating… adds some fun


    (February 21, 2009 - 4:34 am)

    yaar i share the same views on love-arrange marriage…having tasted love,thus…

    and who is this biatchh…uski to beeps!!!

    and your post is still so funny… you being sweet!


    (February 21, 2009 - 10:06 pm)



    (February 22, 2009 - 9:38 am)

    all in all i believe you need some change in life that will make it more peppier and happy.


    (February 22, 2009 - 8:52 pm)

    Time to kick ass and chew bubblegum; and we’re all out of gum 😉


    (February 23, 2009 - 7:17 am)

    You apparently ARE repeating the story of my life in this post of yours.. I so know what you mean!! 🙂

    Adi Crazy

    (February 24, 2009 - 6:03 pm)

    Pritha: Hugs 🙂

    Anon: Hanging by the neck, me.

    Anon 2: Ah. Well…if u say so. 😀

    Adi Crazy

    (February 24, 2009 - 6:03 pm)

    Pritha: Hugs 🙂

    Anon: Hanging by the neck, me.

    Anon 2: Ah. Well…if u say so. 😀

    Adi Crazy

    (February 24, 2009 - 6:05 pm)

    Darshak: hmm…Shallt ry this as well.

    Swayam: did your someone read this post? I’d love to hear the rxn. And I’m too, now, a big supporter of Love marriage. It doesnt help me, that’s a different story. 😛

    Adi Crazy

    (February 24, 2009 - 6:07 pm)

    Buls: I tried that, trust me. But the variet of guys u get is not funny!!! You’d want to scream and run in the opposite direction. Sigh.

    Adi Crazy

    (February 24, 2009 - 6:09 pm)

    Geet: heehee…Thanks for likign the post honey…I tried not to spit venom though. 🙂

    Adi Crazy

    (February 24, 2009 - 6:11 pm)

    JayC: Me, yes. My Life yes again.

    Santosh: I need this change so badly i almost begged my boss to let me change my office for a while. lol

    Adi Crazy

    (February 24, 2009 - 6:12 pm)

    JayC: Me, yes. My Life yes again.

    Santosh: I need this change so badly i almost begged my boss to let me change my office for a while. lol

    Adi Crazy

    (February 24, 2009 - 6:13 pm)

    Unforgiven: gum…i have loads of it. 😐

    Sam: Baby…we are sailing int he same boat. Lets wish each other luck.


    (February 27, 2009 - 11:05 am)

    ah, the low-pissed-stressed phase.
    must we ALL go through it??…

    apparently Yes. Sighhh….

    okay. Positive thing(S)

    1- the ‘ugliest fattest’ individual is not related to you by blood. your knowing her is a temporary phase. thank god.

    2- when you go the ‘arranged’ way, you MAY find someone interesting.. and interesting is better than… umm not. *gags at lack of sense*

    3- you write fabulously, its fun and wonderfully easy to relate to… so thats a constant positive 🙂

    come oooon, there a billion reasons to be happy… count like a 1000 of them and feel lucky!
    maybe moving to another city is a good idea…new people…new food… new life?
    i dont know… at least a new perspective and tons more to talk about 😀

    hope you figure it out, and when you do.. tell me how to!….


    (February 27, 2009 - 11:05 am)

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    (March 5, 2009 - 12:11 pm)

    Don’t Just Give Up! It’s quite easier to preach than follow, but that’s where i strength lies…Time is the best Healer…Sometimes..when you feel jaded, just have to hang on!

    Jeremy James

    (March 19, 2009 - 12:46 pm)

    Hi, I just stumbled on your blog and find it quite interesting.

    After finding this post and referring it to a female friend of mine who was going through a few frustrations…

    I will be following you .. looking forward to your upcoming posts….

    Mr Chamko

    (September 26, 2009 - 10:29 am)

    dont worry!

    you can be this woman!

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