Blow a kiss, fire a gun
We need someone to lean on
Blow a kiss, fire a gun
All we need is somebody to lean on.
That’s correct – no matter how successful, strong or independent we are, we all need someone we can trust completely. No matter what stage of life we’re at, we all need someone in our lives who won’t let us down. And no matter how capable we are of taking care of our own selves, it is good to have someone we can count on. For me, that’s my husband.
I can totally lean on him.
Let me start with what happened last week. I was in Hong Kong for the RISE Conference and my husband was back home, taking care of Gauri, our 4-year-old daughter. His parents had come down from Delhi to help out, but if you know us personally, you know he’s a hands-on dad and is completely capable of holding the fort and taking care of almost everything while I’m not around. What a blessing, right? So, last week when I was in Hong Kong, he called me to say that he dropped his phone and it is now gone for good. Yes, yes I know what you’re thinking – both of them keep dropping their phones, ha-ha. I dropped mine while rappelling in Israel earlier this month.
“Time for a new phone babe!” I told him.
“Yeah, time for a phone that won’t give up.” He said.
We laughed and I started searching online for phones to gift him. A phone that’s reliable and won’t give up, because I know he is going to drop it / launder it / forget it in the office – accidentally, of course. The search was not easy, let me tell you. Just then, I was asked to write for Lava Mobiles and the theme was not your regular cell phone reviews, but something more, something that appealed to me a lot. They asked me to write about someone who #NeverLetsYouDown. Interesting, I thought. And what great timing!
I promptly researched Lava Mobiles and turns out, my BFF is using one and she swears by it. In her words, the phone “has strength that amazes me!” She has a 6-year-old son who is very naughty, so I can imagine what the phone must go through. Needless to say, I’m impressed already. Nothing can convince you like real life examples, right?
And it makes perfect sense to gift it to the husband because like I said, he is my wall. He is my strength and he is my inspiration. He is an Army Officer and is busy almost all the time, he travels a lot for work and is also studying for some Army related stuff. And he still find times to be this amazing, calm, loving and hilarious person that my daughter and I adore. And the best thing about him is, he is dependable. I am a skeptic by nature. I also have borderline OCD, and I have a million idea that I want to work on but I give up easily. I tend to tune out often and I have overwhelming need to explore and float away for a while.
My husband is my anchor. What’s more to say?
Just last month, I travelled thrice, once to Delhi for an exciting shoot with the ITC Hotels, then to Israel with Woodland for an Adventure Trip, and then to Hong Kong for RISE Conference with Skyscanner India. This is my passion and my work – a great combination. And while it is all amazing and super cool for me, it has its down sides for the family. We have a four-year old baby who we do not, ever, leave in the care of anyone except ourselves. His job keeps him pretty busy and so with me gone, it could have been tough. But he arranged first for my mom to come over when I was in Israel, and then his own parents to join him when I was in Hong Kong and he managed things on his own when I was away for the ITC Hotels project for four days.
I am not saying that this is exceptional behaviour – I am aware that both parents are equally responsible for the kid. So no, I am not glorifying the father who takes care of the kid for a few days while the mom is away. No. What I am saying here is that he does it without the drama, or the fuss. He does it because he is also aware that this is nothing grand for a parent. And – he understands how important my passion is for me.
He fully supports me and has never asked me to put something on hold because of him. Also, I just told you that I have issues with trusting people and I always worry about stuff when I’m not present, like, is Gauri eating well? Is she safe? Is she listening to her bed time stories every night, and similar stuff. I can only relax when I know he is there. Seriously, people ask me all the time how you manage to travel so much, or write another book with a little baby, and my answer is because I have somebody to lean on.
In the end, all I want to say is, to everyone who has asked me how I do it – job, writing, travelling, the baby, the Army Wife commitments and just general life, my answer is because I have a partner for life, and we can depend on each other. Simple. It’s that the core of every strong relationship? I bet it is! Do you have someone you can lean on? Tell me in comments. Thanks for reading.