Not very long ago, I blogged about how Girl on Girl Sabotage is probably the saddest of the list of all setbacks to the so called Women Empowerment crusade. It is terrible, really, how we women turn against each other at the lest provocation and at times, without any reason or rhyme. I am not blaming our kind, far from it actually – I am just pointing out that life for a girl would be so much easier if, along with a million issues like safety while taking a cab or travelling in a bus, like not getting paid for her work as her male counterparts or not getting enough education because she’s ‘just a girl’, she also didn’t have to worry about what her fellow women would say about her.
Now I address the women reading this – Darlings, I know that we don’t like to admit it because hey, we are all grown women here and who cares what anyone says, right?
Uh-uh. Wrong. Trust me, the girl on girl sabotage does more harm to our self esteem than anything else can. I mean, you can brush aside your nosy relative’s ‘you are 30 and not married, tch tch’, but if your so called friend who got married at 23, tells you “it’s good that you’re doing so well in your career, at least it’s a distraction from loneliness.” – it feels terrible. Am I right or what?
As for me, I didn’t bother at all when certain male team mates called me a tyrannical b*$#h behind my back because I called them to work on a weekend for a campaign that was supposed to go on air soon, but when a female colleague said I was unfit to tackle my team – it stung. I kept doubting myself for a few days after I got to know of her nasty comment. I wasn’t looking for approval, not at all. And she didn’t even say it to my face so for all I know, it was fabricated gossip. But the sheer meanness of it got to me.
That was the day I realized that if girls aren’t supportive of one another, we will never achieve what we want to – gender equality. I realized that if women won’t stand up for each other, the entire Women Empowerment drive is going to be futile. All I want to say is:
Girls Be Nice To Each Other!
This has been on my mind ever since, and I try to do my bit by not indulging in anything that I wouldn’t like to suffer through myself, at the hands of a fellow woman. Small start makes for a big movement, right? I like to do my bit. And last night I found this AMAZING video which spoke to me like nothing else had.
This Fame School of Style video is titled:
11 Things Women Should Stop Doing To One Another
Exactly the things I wanted to write about! The video is powerful – you watch it and you find yourself promising never to indulge in petty thing we girls unknowingly do to each other. Here’s the video:
See what I mean? This video is going to stay with you for a long time, as it is going to stay with me. We really need to take the whole “Girls Be Nice To Each Other’ cause seriously. And as women, I hope we realize that we need to help empower each other if we want to empower the entire womankind on this planet.
Because if not us, then who?
And if not now, then when?
Let us all girls pledge that we will:
Not blame the girl and her clothes for anything that happens to her – good or bad
Not use the words ‘It Was Her!’ EVER
Not judge a women based on her appearance, work, or other’s opinion of her
Let’s NOT judge at all, okay?
Not indulge in mindless gossip, not trust anything we didn’t see with our own eyes.
Be a source of encouragement to everyone who might need it
Be positive, be helpful, be free of prejudice
Be Kind to our kind, and to everyone else.
Have courage to stand up for what is right
Whenever you see something mean happening, have the courage to say ‘Girls be Nice To Each Other!’
If we women have compassion and kindness for each other, half of the issue will just cease to exist. The daughter-in-law and the mom-in-law equations will be simpler, the lady boss and girl intern relationship will be educational and inspirational, the friends bond will be stronger and so much more supportive, and not to mention, fun!
I know, I know it’s silly to expect everything to be A-Okay right this moment, but we can try, right? We can do our bit. Every little things counts! And by saying Girls Be Nice to Each other, I also count myself in, obviously. I will be nice-er, I promise.
And here’s a special mention to Lakmé School of Style – these guys have done an amazing job with this video. I wish everyone watched this and felt as strongly as I did. Good job, Lakmé School of Style! And hey, while you’re at it, watch some of their style tips too – I mean, empowered women and style are always a good match, right? And when it comes to style, who is better than Lakmé? And if that isn’t enough for you – Lakmé School Of Style Editor-in-chief is Karan Johar, who features in some videos talking about style and charisma. Total fun, isn’t it?
I am in love with Lakmé lip colors – the entire range. And if you go through their YouTube channel, you’ll find a lot of tutorials that are amazing. From a video on ‘The Perfect Selfie Makeup’ to ‘Is Rape a Woman’s Fault?’ – the guys at Lakmé School of Style have the right cocktail of delicious topics on Style and General Awareness to keep it interesting and thought provoking at the same time. Lakmé School of Style is a first of its kind show that will not only bring the newest trends and happenings from the fashion world but in the process will also create new age fashionistas and idols. A fashion brigade led by Editor-in-Chief, Karan Johar himself will bring the fashion news, views and events from all over the world to the internet screen.
Watch their videos, they are really good. Let me know which one is your favourite and I will feature it here along with my take on it.
And in the meantime, be kind to the girls around you, okay? Okay.