‘Throw a party,’

He says.
‘Call your girls
Have fun!’
‘Or read the books
From the shelf
They’ve been waiting –
the gone girls, the thief, that elf?’

‘And write a lot
while I’m away.
The distance is temporary
Don’t let it get to you, okay?’

Oh It’s just about a month, I shrug.
I’ll be fine, I’m not that lame.
I’ll be super busy anyway, I smile & say –
And hope it hides the pain. 

 I’m an Army wife, short term distances should not bother me anymore.

But they do.
They still bloody do.
And excuse me, a month and a half isn’t short term! It’s 45 days of breaking a favorite coffee-together routine, 45 days of no pointless-long-drives, 45 days of watching a common-favorite show alone and not having anyone to discuss it with (phone conversations don’t count), and 45 days of a dull yet constant ache – something I will never get used to.

As an Army Wife, I admit that you learn to function alone. You party, you work and you live.

But loneliness? There’s no cure for it.

Post Author: Aditi Mathur Kumar

Author. Traveller. Blogger. Talker. Eavesdropper.

11 thoughts on “Loneliness

  • Somya

    (February 3, 2015 - 2:17 pm)

    Like I always ask 'How do you manage this distance?'
    Beautifully written. Only strong women can be an Army wive.

  • Somya

    (February 3, 2015 - 2:18 pm)

    Like I always ask 'How do you manage this distance?'
    Beautifully written. Only strong women can be an Army wive.

  • Inderpreet Kaur Uppal

    (February 3, 2015 - 2:33 pm)

    Lovely and heart felt…. Just dawn right!


    (February 3, 2015 - 4:06 pm)

    Hi Aditi. Came across your blog today and this is the first post that I read. Very beautifully written.

  • Ritu Sahani

    (February 4, 2015 - 5:34 am)

    I can't tell you how true this poem is. Husband has been away for almost 32 days now and I am tired of hearing army wives are strong and they don't get low for such stuff. Hugs to you aditi. Keep writing. Sharing it on my page. Godspeed!

  • Sancheta Madkar

    (February 4, 2015 - 1:34 pm)

    🙁 distance sucks. big time.

    beautifully written.

  • Akanksha Dureja

    (February 6, 2015 - 9:43 am)

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  • Akanksha Dureja

    (February 6, 2015 - 9:43 am)

    Loved the poetry! Keep calm and enjoy your books, this too shall pass. Besides, Don't we all say that distance makes the heart grow fonder? 🙂

  • Bhargav Bhatt

    (February 7, 2015 - 7:32 am)

    waves with different perceptions.. awesome, really…

  • Priya

    (February 7, 2015 - 8:13 am)

    Aww , nicely written…sharing it too..on my page..

  • Tannu Bhatia

    (May 13, 2015 - 6:56 pm)

    don't know much about armylife …but after reading ur blog i too want to read ur book asap really a gud one….i wish i would experience the same if god give me the chance …..u change my mind towards army life

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